Transitions – How to move through hard changes in your life

Everyone always says, “Change is a good thing,” and yes that is absolutely true. Change is definitely something that is needed in our lives. It helps keep us out of the monotony and is one of the main things that help us grow. But what no one ever talks about is the changes that are hard. The hard stuff that is really hard to go through, and hurts, and is painful. Change like a breakup, losing a job, moving to a new city, or cutting ties with people in your life. This is the sort of change that is hard and probably why people don’t welcome it.

I know this from experience because this recently has happened to us a few times lately. We stepped away from a business partnership because we did not see the vision any more. We loved the people we partnered with and still do to this day, we just realized we had different visions for our life, and that is ok. It was super hard, it felt like a breakup. Whenever you have big change, it can definitely feel scary. You’re going into the unknown and when you don’t have knowledge around something that is when fear settles in because you don’t know what to expect. Even though this change was super difficult and hard to go through, in the end there was a calm about it that made us fee like we made the right decision. That is change that you can control and necessary to make when you come to a cross roads in life.

There is also the change that is out of your control. You guys know that Michael and I still work full time. I recently was let go from my job suddenly and it was totally unexpected. At first I was scared, confused, and felt totally wronged. I’ve never been let go in my life and I pride myself on my work ethic. But it was something that was out of my control, they wanted someone who would do unethical things and I would not stoop to it, so I was let go. This was a hard change to realize especcially going through it. I felt an immense amount of shame like I was damaged or not worthy. But then I realized this was a blessing in disguise. I was not happy at my last job and did not believe in the ethics of the company and the lack of leadership. I was stressed out all the time, having anxiety attachks, and trouble sleeping for fear of under performing. I realized after I moved through the shock and sadness, that this was a push from God to move toward our business and to put my whole heart and soul into it. It helps that I have an amazing husband and we have a great plan, but I wanted to tell you guys that if you have ever been let go to remember that you are beautifully and wonderfully made. The only person’s opinion of you you should care about is you.

I’m here surviving after this change and I can tell you that I have grown so much through it. I am learning so much about myself and resilience. I’m learning that no one can tell me what my worth is, only I can do that. And it doesn’t make sense to be in a negative toxic environment. It makes sense for me to go after my dreams and serve people as much as possible. That is what lights my heart on fire, no working for someone who does not value me.

So friends, just remember, change is super freaking hard. It hurts and it sucks, but please please please, do not give up. Keep going. I see this instance as a sign that the enemy would like to keep me down. The enemy showed its face as this company trying to keep me down. That just means I am destined for greatness and so are you. Don’t give up when it gets hard, lean into it. Keep fighting. Just know we are with you and we believe in you. You are made to do great things and you will accomplish them.

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